New Moms Feel Anxious

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“If you are a brand new mom, trust me, you’re going to doubt your capability of being a mom, but your love and all of that is going to make your child be just fine. There’s no manual saying that this is how you need to do and this is how you don’t need to do it. But what you do need to do is to have a good support system.

Taking Care of Yourself and Your Newborn

If your family is there or if your family is not there, try to make sure that somebody helps you. Uh, being that as your baby is firstborn, you’re going to have some adjustments into your sleeping patterns. Your baby’s not going to sleep all night, so you’re going to be tired. Whether you’re breastfeeding or not, the baby still has to be fed. So you’re going to be waking up all the time or day and night and situations.

Maybe if you’re working, that creates a certain time. So just make sure that you have a good support system in place and understand that there’s no set way to be a mother. Do what’s best for you and for your child and kind of what feels right for you and your child. But it’s important to have support so that you don’t get over the tired over the frustrated because that can lead to a lot of fatigue, it can lead to postpartum depression even in certain cases.

Get Guidelines on Handling Postpartum Nervousness  

So, but if you know what to expect in a way, that also helps too. But nothing is that exact. You could always have some guidelines to go by, but you can’t always say that this is how it’s supposed to be done. So be confident in the fact that if you do have somebody to help you either with your cooking or your cleaning or let’s just say that’s not possible.

What you don’t help, learn to take a break and arrest. It’s okay if the house is not clean. It’s okay if the dishes are not washed. After all, you’ve been up all night and you’ve been taking care of your child.  

So as long as your child’s needs are being met and then it’s always good to, if you don’t have the support system, let’s say you have to work it out where you can make less work on yourself. 

Build Up New Routine

A good way to do that would be to fix meals ahead of time, have them frozen so that all you have to do is freeze, you know, throw them out and that, that alleviates a lot of cooking and like leave these a lot of cleaning and all of that. So whatever it is that’s best for you so that you feel most supported too. And then never be afraid to tell women what you need or let your provider know that you need help, that you’re being swamped here.

Anxiety is a normal human emotion

I feel like I’m not doing good. I feel like I’m not doing it right. I feel like I need a suggestion. So just don’t be afraid to ask. And if you don’t know, don’t be afraid to, to, to reach out thinking that well they’ll think I’m stupid or they I think I don’t know what I’m doing. 

No, each baby is different. Each child is going to be different. They have their different personalities, some of them sleep at night earlier than what others do. So don’t feel like you’re a failure and then it’s whatever support that you need. First of all, let it be known. Reach out for it and then let people know that this is what you need to help and people will be more than willing to help you.”

Maria Milton, Midwife
Maria Milton is a licensed midwife from Flowersview, Florida, and a strong advocate of midwives and natural childbirth. She holds a Bachelor’s Degree in Biology/Pre-Med from Florida A & M University in Tallahassee, Florida. Maria is the daughter and past colleague of (the late) midwife, Gladys Milton. She currently owns/operates Milton Memorial Birthing Center in Flowersview—a facility founded by her mother in 1976.